• Patricia Jean Fleming

Wednesday Weekly Wisdoms 025 – Ceremony

Our lives are geared to ceremony. It pleases us to celebrate, but, do we need to celebrate with ceremony?

Ceremony = A formal religious or public occasion, especially one celebrating a particular event, achievement, or anniversary. The ritual observances and procedures required or performed at grand and formal occasions. https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition

Ritual = A religious or solemn ceremony consisting of a series of actions performed according to a prescribed order. A prescribed order for performing a ritual ceremony, especially one characteristic of a particular religion or Church. A series of actions or type of behaviour regularly and invariably followed by someone.

Ritual, grand, formal, prescribed order, followed by someone! Is this fully inclusive or does it encourage segregation for those unable to participate in celebrations; do we need ceremony? ‘You are cordially invited’ – how many times have you ‘had’ to attend a ceremony that you have been ‘cordially’ invited to?

Are we heading into an era where we can learn to celebrate on an individual, heartfelt basis rather than turning it into a ‘show’, a performance?

We have a natural ‘show’ of things in nature, the blossoming and blooming of trees and flowers but there is no ceremony necessary with this.

We can love and appreciate without ceremony.

A ‘prescribed order’ to be ‘followed by someone’? Who prescribes it? This following feels like ‘blindly’ following – because this is ‘what we do’; a learned behaviour. How many ceremonious occasions have we been involved in in our lives that we, if we had reached into our hearts, knew we didn’t need to be part of but went because it was expected of us?

Does ceremony keep us focused on Ego energy, rather than heart energy? Is ceremony okay if it is arranged to celebrate from the heart and not the head? Is this an personal – person by person decision to be made?

Where am I going with this? For me it is about inclusiveness and segregation.

When we create something that is not open to all then we segregate. If we moved ceremony from head based ‘look at me’ celebrating to heartfelt ‘happy to be with me’ being we could take away the e.g. ‘pain’ of needing to keep up with the Jones’s!

This is an issue that I would love to hear your take on – how do you see it?

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